Nothing’s quite as sad as the loss of a child, and SA’er BJ Porter shares some words about the 18 year old sailor and yacht crew Bethany. We’ll save the blame and conjecture for another time (or the thread, of course), but for now, our most deep condolences to all who knew or loved her. Photo from Bethany’s blog (That’s her in the middle). Title shout.
She was a really neat kid. When we where in Trinidad we caught up with them – Bethany was about Will’s age, and her younger brother is about my daughter’s age. They’d met very briefly in St. Martin, but hadn’t really connected there. But our first night in Trinidad we went out for dinner, and Bethany came up to us while we were sitting at the restaurant and made arrangements to hook up with our kids the next day. She knew what boat we were from and who the kids were even though they’d only really met once, briefly. They it it off instantly. So the four kids were hanging together literally every day we were there.
Bethany had one of those personalities that brightened any room she was in. A nice, sweet, cheerful young woman that you instantly liked. I know she also did some things like spend weeks away from volunteering to help with cleanup on another island after a hurricane hit and other things like that. While we were there, Bethany spotted smoke from a neighboring boat in the marina. Her quick action saved that boat, and maybe others. The boat owner took her and all her teenaged friends out for a pizza party.
She will be missed; her loss hits home in a lot of ways. Not the least of which is as parent of two kids of a similar age, with the family scattered around. Nobody plans for a funeral for a kid that age. And someone like Bethany, who was just such a lovely person, you don’t even think about anything but her future.